Frankly, I’m being FORCED into entrepreneurship. No thanks to nasty bosses. Just this evening, I got a call from the CEO of my now-former company, threatening me with a legal suit. Gee! Thanks, (ex-)boss!
He never once called to congratulate me on a job well done, a sales target impressively achieved, or just to find out how I’m doing. And I’ve worked there for more than 2 years!
I remember the last call we had, some 8 months or so ago. He called just to scream down the phone at me. Without getting his facts right. Without understanding that I HAD put the company’s interests first and did what was best!
In tears, I called my ‘superior’ to say I wanted to quit, those 8 months back. As the Chinese saying goes ‘You can kill me, but you cannot humiliate me’. The ultimate humiliation then was having your CEO call you on your ‘off’ day, ruin your day by hollering down the phone at you for something that’s not your fault, that he had heard from someone else without verifying facts, and then still have to go back to the office to close deals for the company on the same ‘off’ day!
[I didn’t leave that time because my ‘superior’ told me not to. And I was honoring a promise to him made at the start of the year that I’d stick with this position for a minimum of 12 months.]
This time, it was no different. He called to accuse. Insinuating that I had evil intentions for uploading that post explaining why I quit my job. He demanded that I remove the post. He threatened me with legal action. I said fine, I didn’t name your company. He asked what I wanted him to do, I said ‘nothing’. He said he will be discussing with so-and-so about the next course of action. Alright. At some point, I got pissed (*pardon me. No other word describes my emotions then) at him and told him, in no uncertain terms, “You have no right to call me as I’ve already left (your company)!”
I hope he gets the point. I hope he sees why employees are leaving. I hope he understands that without talent retention, the company can’t do better.
I wish he’ll put that ego aside. I wish he’ll just show his ‘human’ side for once and treat employees as living, breathing fellow humans. I wish that he’ll start treating his employees with care, concern and a certain level of pride, just as he is a loving father to his children.
Starting this blog has been so inspiring for me and many others. I’ve interviewed many bosses, who are such outstanding individuals in the care they have for their employees. Names like David Yim (of Udders Ice Cream) and Irene Ang (of FLY Entertainment) come to mind. Would I want to tarnish this by slandering an ex-company? I’d think not. Hence I didn’t name any names.
The CEO asked why the post was published. The plain, honest and simple answer is that I’m telling my readers and friends what I’m giving up and walking away from, because I believe there is a higher purpose in Life than being overworked and losing sight of what you’re working for. Sure, we can’t do without money, but are we trading our health, relationships and most importantly, self-esteem for it?
Dear Boss, you may be the boss. But that doesn’t mean you can boss me around. Sometimes, polite requests work far better than callous, reproachful demands. We are not in primary school anymore.
Someone once wrote that how you treat your employees will determine how they treat your customers. Go figure.