Le Jia (乐嘉), from the hugely popular Chinese game show 非诚勿扰 (If You Are The One) has the following words of advice for women. You can read the full article in Mandarin here. I’ve only had time to quickly translate his first 10 tips.😀
Don’t look for men who do not take the initiative to contact you. No matter what excuses he gives for not contacting you, it all shows he does not really care about you. A man who really loves you will feel uncomfortable not hearing from you for even a day. If he’s not like that, it means he does not love you, or at least, is not deeply in love with you.
Stay away from men who are unwilling to spend money on you. Don’t expect such a person to be good to you in future too.
Be strong when going through a breakup. Do not cry, tear up photos, burn letters, or destroy diaries like a fool would do. Insist on believing in love – that good men still exist, and that someone is in fact looking for you in this sea of people. Don’t say that there are no good men – this might mislead people into thinking you have been in a countless number of relationships.
4) 不要做拜金女。 爱物质没有错，但要适当，永远记着，精神更重要！
Don’t be a material girl. There is nothing wrong with loving material things, but know your limits. Always remember that the ‘spirit’ is more important.
5) 不要以貌取人。 爱一个人不要看他的相貌，相貌是虚幻的东西，只有灵魂才是真实的，空有好的相貌而没有内涵的人，多半是昙花一现。当感情陷入危机时，再好的相貌也会令人憎恶。情人眼里出西施，相貌的好坏会随着爱与不爱转换的！
Do not judge a person by his appearance. Looks are fleeting, only the soul is real. With just good looks and no substance, it’s all short-lived. When there is a relationship crisis, even his good looks could become detestable to you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Your perception of his looks will change based on whether you are in love with him or not.
Find someone honest, chivalrous, and who gets along well with you. He likes everything you do, and vice versa. This makes for a good relationship. Otherwise, you won’t find someone who takes pleasure in what you do.
Love should not come with additional conditions. Marriage is about a partnership, not one person living off the other. The man must be able to support the family, but it doesn’t mean that you do not have to work.
Never accept a man who beats women. A big, burly man, when nasty to you, can break your bones.
Don’t fall in love with a handsome man. He is usually attractive to many, idolized by middle-aged women. He could be yours today, and perhaps someone else’s tomorrow. If you don’t mind sharing him with other women, then go ahead and love him.
Don’t fall in love with a man without morals. A man with good morals is more valuable than villas and fast cars. Money can bring you enjoyment but not lasting happiness. The soul derives more joy from spiritual fulfillment than physical pleasure.
Disclaimer: I take no responsibility for the accuracy of the English translations – I’ve done my best. Such translation work usually gives me headaches. But I thought that people who can’t understand Chinese might appreciate the translation. Let me know in the comments below if you’ve enjoyed this. And I’ll go on to translate the rest.🙂