Perhaps you’ve read my earlier post about Kevin Tsai’s popular book ‘说话之道’, or perhaps you haven’t but that’s fine. Reading Chinese books is not exactly a hobby of mine so good luck to the Government in wanting to promote literature in our mother tongue languages when many in this country don’t even like reading to begin with. LOL!
This book is really good though, and I think there should be an English translation, if there isn’t such a version already.
Anyway, here are more of the learning points from Book One…
- Remove the ‘sharp edge’ in your questions.
- Ask questions that will elicit a variety of responses from your audience.
- Avoid the (many) landmines: finances, illness(es), relationships, kids’ grades, politics, sports, hated celebs, religion, vegetarians vs meat eaters, etc.
- Numbers are more memorable if you link them to events. DO NOT ask about how much a person makes when you’ve only just met him/her!
- Pauses are important. Let your voice be a mental massage for others, not a verbal lashing.
- Insert a ‘hook’ in your conversation so people follow.
- Don’t wait too long before revealing the ‘climax’ in your story.
- Avoid canned jokes. Good jokes should prompt conversation after.
- Ask questions which prompt the speaker to continue.
- Be outstanding without sabotaging yourself.
- Don’t be in a hurry to answer. Keep quiet if you’ve heard that joke before.
- Be the first to state your name.
- Give praise that is desired.
- Don’t answer your own question, and don’t set traps for people to fall into.
- When on stage, make a good point every 15 minutes.
I’m not done with the book yet. Yes, it’s frustrating because I usually do speed-reading for books written in English. Gah! So I’ll have to update this blog again later. But don’t hold your breath. It’ll take a while. 😀