Social Media: Who You Are Dating Becomes Everyone’s Business (The Rachel Wong Saga)

*Update on 3rd Jan 2014, after receiving an email from Rachel, who said “My best friend wasn’t actually together w my current beau. Ever. So basically his last girlfriend was Tammy. And I’m the next girlfriend.”*

When I was asked if I have heard about the blogger, Rachel Wong, and what she did, I was clueless. Apparently, there have been rumors that Rachel dumped her boyfriend and slept with her friend’s boyfriend. Is it really our business who she is (or is not) sleeping with, and whether she dumped her boyfriend? No, but the average Singaporean will want to know, get all riled up, and post something on the offending blogger’s blog.

All I can say after reading the blogposts by two bloggers (Rachel Wong and Tammy Tay) is that the private lives of young bloggers these days are so complicated. Tammy Tay claims she is one of the ex-girlfriends of the guy that Rachel Wong dumped her boyfriend for. Confused? Well, it’s a small (dating) world?

You may or may not recognize Rachel (from herΒ facebook profile)Β Rachel Wong

Rachel wrote a blogpost addressing the rumors: ‘A Heartfelt Truth‘. It does seem like this girl is very much in love, and don’t we all make mistakes when we are blinded by love? “Fighting” for one’s happiness does sound good, but at the end of the day, you’ll want the blessings from your friends and family, not nasty blog comments telling you to be careful of karma and whatnot.

From the comments, I’m piecing together the story that Rachel dumped her boyfriend, “Choon Yan” (whom she had dated for over 2 years) and stole her good friend’s (Alissa) boyfriend, “Daryl”, who is also the ex-boyfriend of Tammy Tay. [Rachel emailed me to clarify: “My best friend wasn’t actually together w my current beau. Ever. So basically his last girlfriend was Tammy. And I’m the next girlfriend.”]

After 63 comments on her blogpost, Rachel was smart enough to disable further comments.Β Tammy’s blogpost ‘Girlfriend Code‘ “sparked more views” than the latter had expected.

Why am I blogging about this? One: Since I was kaypoh enough to go read their blogposts, I might as well blog about the saga and see what we can learn from this, from a social media standpoint.

Two: I just have a comment on how such hoo-has will blow over soon. Around this time last year, the blogosphere buzzed with the Zoe Raymond saga. A year on, I guess many have forgotten her name, and most don’t care what is happening in her life now.

If your life happens to be the talk of the town blogosphere and who you are dating suddenly becomes everyone’s business, just disable comments and keep a low profile. In a week’s time, people will have moved on. And in a year’s time, people will have trouble recalling your name. Just don’t create another scandal. πŸ˜›

938LIVE Interview: 4 Dec 2013

So… I got interviewed on 938LIVE yet again. My 3rd time there in just over 3 years of blogging! πŸ˜€

Cozy enough to take a selfie in the studio πŸ˜€

938LIVEI spoke with DJ Daphne Lim about Blogging and also about my book ‘Blogging For A Living’. Not bothering with podcasts or recordings since the program has an encore broadcast on Thurs at 2pm. πŸ˜€

Here are some of the questions sent to me before the interview. We obviously didn’t keep to the list and some new questions were added on the spot. (@_@)

Questions edited for clarity:

1) What is the main source of income for your blog?

Advertorials, which are paid, full-length blogposts.

I am an accidental full-time blogger. I started this blog as my excuse to interview famous people and find out their secrets to success. My blog became my platform for securing these interviews.

When people started asking me to interview them, I did so and charged a fee. That’s how it began!

2) A good blog would be raking in $$?

A good blog can be raking in no money at all. πŸ˜€

The term “good” itself is highly subjective.

A blog with a significant amount of traffic coupled with a blogger open to advertising revenue, should bring in a decent sum of money each month.

Having said that, some bloggers simply do not want to monetize their popular blogs. And other bloggers want to make money out of their not-very-popular-yet blogs.

3) How stable is the advertising income?

It definitely is *NOT* stable at all.

4) How much time do you spend on the blog (is it equivalent to the 9-5)?

Of course not. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have left my corporate job, which paid me $114,000 (annual income), where I worked all week and had no life.

I work less than 4 hours a week on my blog. Probably 3 hours.

5) Is there an equivalent occupation that the blogger is usurping?

Not that I can think of. Most bloggers in Singapore are kind and friendly. *wink wink* πŸ˜€

6) How sustainable is an occupation like this is, in the long-run, with the development of technology?

I’m no fortune teller. I do not know if there will still be blogs 2 years down the road. But people who love social media, who love expressing their thoughts and ideas, will move with the times, and leverage on technology, to constantly invent and reinvent themselves.

7) Blogs are a dime a dozen, how do you make sure yours is seen, heard of, and shared?

By being featured on worthy programs like this one. πŸ˜€

8) Is anyone who wants to start a blog NOW just too late in the game?

Of course not. Great, new ideas are always welcome.

9) UI and Design and flow is something quite different from creating content, and giving valuable opinions, is it necessary to hire a professional to handle that for you?

I don’t run a professional website. I do not have the expertise nor the inclination. Still, it is always wise to outsource tasks which you cannot perform as well as others.

I handle most things myself – from photography, to editing, to handling advertisers’ queries.

10) *One of those extra questions* Something along the lines of “The blogosphere is already saturated with blogs. Can I possibly find a niche to blog about?

Certainly! Despite the millions of books already published, I could still publish one more – ‘Blogging For A Living’. Many bloggers are unwilling to share their secrets to success, so I found that there would be demand for such a book. πŸ™‚ You can definitely find a great idea for a new blog!

Final words: Blogging is not the easiest thing to do. But it’s a lot of fun for me. I enjoy blogging. Hence, as long as I am able to, I will blog. πŸ™‚

If you have a question, or if you want to attend a blogging workshop, drop me an email at gracewwg [at] gmail [dot] com.

To Your Blogging Success,

Grace Tan πŸ™‚


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Just last week, I conducted 3 such Coaching Sessions and was privileged to meet 3 people who are blogging about Property, Diving and Finance, respectively. πŸ™‚

Here’s Arthur, a property agent with PropNex. He sells luxurious property worth millions of dollars each.

* Pardon the poor lighting in this photo taken with my iPhone XD *

Arthur said: “I thought my blog should be very corporate-like; such that I found it boring myself. Grace showed me how to make my blog content come alive with structured steps, insights and tips on better postings. I now know how to get traffic, advertisers and even sponsors. I would recommend Grace’s Coaching Sessions – she helped me identify what to focus on and what I really want to achieve with blogging. And she opened up new perspectives about the possibilities for my blog.”

Now, meet Xiu Li. She’s an accountant and has various interesting hobbies like judo and diving. She’s starting a new blog on diving and I gave her tips on how to avoid situations such as slacking off for weeks without new posts.

Xiu Li said: “I was given concrete get-started tips and shown examples of good postings. Though I’ve been blogging sporadically since 2005, I wasn’t familiar with various widgets. Grace gave clear step-by-step tips on the usage of widgets and their purposes. Due to work, I’m unable to blog frequently so Grace showed me how to generate and manage consistent postings. :)”

One from Kamal, who works in a bank:

Kamal's Testimonial

Finally, there’s Sean who is an Author, Master Trainer, and Expert at trading options. I was shocked to find out that when he was in his 20s, he was training fund managers twice his age!

*Photo courtesy of Sean Seah*

Sean said: “Two really great things about the session with Grace is, firstly, she gave me a structured step-by-step approach on how to improve on my blog. Secondly, she provided me with valuable tips that can’t be found in books or on websites. It was a valuable and fun session working with Grace.”

Screenshot of the email Sean sent me a little later:


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Whether you already own a blog or not, always remember to have FUN while blogging! πŸ™‚ Cheers! – Grace